Tag: behavior

It is hard to imagine how a minimally upright personality can be consolidated without cultivating loyalty. Because without it, everything dissolves. The founding consistency of a personality is the little bit of loyalty it has. It is that immutable, sure thing, that essence that time accentuates, that line that cannot be crossed without disfigurement. It is around it that everything else develops; without it, no virtue can sustain itself and is limited to be sporadic whatever good that comes along.

The most damaging thing about fame seems to be that it clouds the judgment so sneakily, so imperceptibly that, viewed from a distance, the famous seem to have lost track of himself. In the face of this, vanity is a detail. Paul Johnson’s book comes to mind once again—a book that seems to have been written so as never to stray from memory. We think of those, and others, to whom fame has given its treacherous embrace, and we see how destructive it has been to their conscience, how ugly it seems to us the manifestation of the very high concept they had of themselves in front of others. Sometimes the most common criticism of the Stoics is nothing more than temperamental implication: a Marcus Aurelius, when compared to a Rousseau, is much more than a great sage.

It takes having a day ruined by something unforeseen for the mind to remember how wonderful those days are when there are no disturbances. We forget to appreciate the placidity until we feel the urge to rant against luck for the plans that have been destroyed. But it is inevitable… So let the bad day be useful for learning to master anger and learn this lesson…

It is good to get rid of this habit of admiring with restrictions, which is practically not admiring at all. Genuine admiration ends the compliment with a period. But doing so is really hard because, disregarding vanity, it is really hard to get the eyes used to focusing on what is good. When one does not learn to do this, one gets an ever more or less bitter taste from everything, and finally does not enjoy the uplifting character of true admiration.