Tag: behavior

When we are asked how to deal with envy, malice and falsehood, it is safe to say that we are dealing with a young person, or someone with little experience. “Deal” is the vocabulary of someone who is still tied to the social game and afraid of appearing hostile. In short, there is no “deal” with envy, malice or falsehood. What there is, however, is to walk away from envious, malicious and false people at the first and slightest sign, without hesitation or embarrassment. To do this, however, one needs to have a very well-established personality, something that only comes with the years, and makes it possible to act resolutely and kick the convenience to the curb..

The true personality appears when the social mask is removed. Many people, out of fear, spend a lifetime without being able to assume it, or even know it. The most obvious effect of this is permanent dissatisfaction. There is nothing in this life that can replace the pleasure that comes from authenticity; to experience it, however, requires an act of courage, which is always disruptive, with short-term consequences that are often unpleasant. It happens that, much sooner than expected, the initial shock wears off and it feels like a release from infinite constraints, all of which stem from the unfortunate attempt to appear to be what one is not.

Maturity is perhaps notable for being the age when it becomes impossible to start an endeavor and then abandon it, when one always thinks about the end and what one does is done so that, if it does not end at a previously defined point, it lasts for the rest of one’s life. It is an age when the desire for the curious test disappears and one starts to act with certainty and resolution. It is an age, then, when one sees both the motivation and the goal, only making efforts in favor of what is in line with one’s inner nature. Some men never reach it…