Tag: behavior

In most cases, maturity comes out of necessity: circumstances force a change in attitude, a departure from past habits and preferences, and adaptation to the current context. Therefore, necessity is often positive. In cases where it does not act, or is not so pronounced, that is, in cases where maturity depends on voluntary action, it often does not occur. There are those who cannot overcome internal resistance and spend their lives clinging to a past that is gone. It is sad, however, to note the result: one is left with the impression that, due to the inability to break a few old ties, an unnatural imbalance has been created.

In many ways, it is harmful to be born into a society accustomed to failure. Psychologically, the effect is devastating. But failure itself, when experienced, can very well be beneficial. The problem perhaps starts with the parameters: by failing, new ones can be discovered. A new north emerges, which is perhaps worth adopting. The society that gets used to success sometimes inhibits the reflection that reveals possibilities. It creates victors who do not have to think. One day, however, they come face to face with the fundamental experience. The triumphant feeling ceases, and they envy those who, fortunately, had it when they had more time to live.

While it is true that small deviations slow down and hinder progress, it is also true that time erases them, which perhaps shows that, after all, it is unreasonable to have them as an object of great concern. This is why it is good to keep in mind the advice that, in order to succeed, it is enough not to give up. The result always stands out, and when it is satisfactory, it hardly matters how many mistakes were made to achieve it.

Every good teenager reaches adulthood knowing enough about the elements of group psychology that regulate the bulk of human associations of all kinds. So if, as an adult, he joins a club, he knows from experience what to expect. Some find it very natural, others not so much; but everyone ends up giving in, again and again, to the gregarious instinct that drives them towards association. It is only natural that the excitement wears off, the frustrations accumulate, and one day is discovered the cozy refuge of the self. But there are also a few lucky ones who come across a different kind of association; to them, the fairest thing is to offer sincere congratulations.