The absurdity of not wanting traumatic experiences lies in the fact that such experiences are often the most memorable and rewarding, from which one can reap the most abundant and lasting benefits. It is not uncommon for a fruitful life to be built around them; an admirable life that knows how to transcend the negative and create something of value from it. Why, then, would we not want them? Because we are naturally inclined to believe that a pleasant life is superior to a fruitful one. What a mistake! And, when all is said and done, it is not hard to see how much more satisfying it is to be able to look back and admire how much one has done and how much one has managed to transform.