It is only after a long time, and after witnessing many breakups and much frustration, that one realizes the truth of the lesson: without the idem velle, idem nolle, friendship does not thrive. And it does not do so for the better, since, over time, without it, it will only get in the way. Before one realizes it, time has been lost, opportunities have been missed, energy has been wasted, and stagnation has set in. Hence, there is no failure more predictable, when time does not align with the old principle, and to notice this is to know that there are forces against which it is not worth fighting. It is undoubtedly better to follow the advice of one’s natural, spontaneous inclination, which, without having to spend a single word, points in the direction toward which the spirit should converge.
Tag: behavior
If There Were a Science of Biographies…
If there were a science of biographies, more interesting than analyzing strokes of luck, unforeseen events, and other relevant determinations of fate would be to delve deeper into the study of these very frequent complex circumstances, in which merit is not entirely absent, but clearly not enough to justify the success achieved, and then it is argued that this, there, at the right time and in the specific circumstance, “had to happen.” Others, perhaps with more talent and greater merit, did not enjoy similar results, and then one wonders why. Such circumstances are impressive and sometimes determine an entire life. How can they be explained? On a mundane level, they achieve something incredible and leave no other impression than that the biographee was born to do what he did.
It Is Sad to See That It Is Not Uncommon…
It is sad to see that it is not uncommon to encounter such hardened natures, for whom time only intensifies the cycle of mistakes from which they cannot free themselves. Living with such people is extremely painful, especially after a few years, when you are certain that there will be no change and the situation will only get worse. The day comes when the discomfort becomes unbearable, and then all that remains is to abandon them to their fate. But the worst thing is that doing so does not solve the problem, and leaves a wound on the conscience that is very difficult to heal…
In a Personal Account, It Can Be Observed…
In a personal account, it can be observed that sincerity, when authentic, makes the interlocutor tolerate practically everything. When not indulgence, it at least elicits goodwill and understanding. Thus, for example, sincere repentance causes instant sympathy, very different from the feeling that arises in the interlocutor when faced, in an identical account, with the addition of justification. Because, deep down, one always reacts to the motivating feeling, and it is not necessary to undergo specialized training to readily differentiate between frankness and self-love.