Confession is effective because it instantly eradicates self-deception, halting the endless succession of consequences that would surely follow from it. It effectively makes a fresh start possible, free from the pernicious tendencies that, in order to manifest themselves again, would require a new decision. Verbalizing the fault solidifies the acknowledgment and the desire for amendment; the act of expressing it outwardly literally brings it out into the open and thus undeniably achieves its intended purpose. All of this is something the intellect can already perceive even before the experience.
Ideal Relationships
Based solely on his work, it would be impossible to imagine just how fortunate Cioran was in his relationship with Simone Boué. It was a lifelong, affectionate, stable, and deep relationship with someone who shared similar interests, was content to lead a discreet, modest life, and who, above all, by her very presence, made his days better, his life better. Machado de Assis was also able to enjoy a similar relationship, grounded in affection, shared interests, and mutual admiration. Now, if there is one thing that is certain, it is that a bond of this nature is extremely rare, absolutely exceptional. It is almost a miracle that two such souls manage to cross paths in the world, get to know one another, and have the opportunity to discover the depth of their connection. This, indeed, is a unique, exceptionally special experience, one from which the vast majority of mortals are deprived.
It Is Unjustifiable for Reason to Point…
It is unjustifiable for reason to point to an example, to know that envies it, to acknowledge the desire to emulate it, and yet do nothing to achieve it, giving up before even trying. Now, if there is one thing that is certain, it is that merit is often imperceptible to the one who possesses it; that is, the person cultivates it, refines it, and perseveres while sincerely believing to be doing nothing out of the ordinary. But the main point is this: this same person knows to not possess the highest merit; knows of examples better than his own. Thus, he can be humble and move forward with calm and modesty. If he wanted everything right away, he would end up empty-handed; but with the right attitude, he ends up creating something of value. And so the example is doubly useful: to serve as a model, and to demonstrate that this desire to always be the best is, above all, foolish.
The Environment Can Be Truly Restrictive
Sometimes, the environment can be truly restrictive. And so, the feeling of being trapped within it is well-founded. In these cases, sincere will alone is not enough to transform it: habit, above all, has crystallized a complex and invincible structure. Invincible, as long as one wishes to be part of it, as long as one wishes to benefit from it in some way, or simply is not willing to endure the discomfort of breaking away from it. Because this is the truth: it is always possible to choose the latter option. And if growth is a priority, there is no alternative but to do so—only to discover, after that courageous act, that the so-called discomfort was actually quite ordinary.